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[Quoting me:] Any list of masculine quali...@ahunt:<br /><br />[Quoting me:] Any list of masculine qualities that I might list would be attacked by you as not uniquely masculine.[/quote]<br /><i>"Guilty as charged.</i><br /><br />The logical conclusion to this line of thinking is that there is zero correlation between masculinity and males, and therefore no reason for males to value masculinity at all.<br /><br /><i>"The world has changed, John [...] Best to go with the flow."</i><br /><br />Your agenda is textbook feminist. Feminist ideology seeks to remove all distinctiveness from masculinity, and thereby feminize men by making them less distinctively masculine (and thereby making them more like women). Why then should any man who wishes to preserve his masculinity look favorably upon feminism? If this is how "the world has changed," then know this: people like me will be active in reversing the damage that feminist dogma has inflicted upon the sexes in both law and culture. If you think that's just talk, then just <i><b>watch and wait.</b></i>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-15750968473657649612010-12-19T18:03:05.972-06:002010-12-19T18:03:05.972-06:00Any list of masculine qualities that I might list ...<i>Any list of masculine qualities that I might list would be attacked by you as not uniquely masculine</i><br /><br />Guilty as charged.<br /><br />You would be correct, but my actual point was going to be that, in my experience, the most effective leadership teams generally demonstrated as much in the way of stereotypical feminine traits as those considered traditionally masculine. (Whew, there's a mouthful...hope I'm clear.)<br /><br />The world has changed, John, and it has recognized that there are greater behavior ranges within the sexes...than between them. Best to go with the flow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-57303341379259960042010-12-19T13:27:28.134-06:002010-12-19T13:27:28.134-06:00Christine WE,
Any state that does not allow emer...Christine WE, <br /><br />Any state that does not allow emergency-protective-orders-by-phone, but does allow <b>warrantless arrest,</b> can effectively do the same thing by simply arresting the accused and incarcerating him long enough for the accuser to file a bogus restraining order. All the officer needs is "probable cause," which in practice is subjectively determined by the officer himself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-74799784421167569262010-12-19T09:02:24.688-06:002010-12-19T09:02:24.688-06:00I was curious as to what states allow police to is...I was curious as to what states allow police to issue emergency orders so I researched all the states and I found 4 that do this. While one of these did not specify in the material I reviewed how long such an order will stand, of the remaining three, one is until 5pm the next business day, one is 24 hours, and the last is 72 hours. In addition, there were 2 additional states in which you can call police after hours who will refer you to on-call judges or magistrates. And another 2 states instruct persons that they can call police for assistance with emergency protection after hours but didn't specify exactly what they can do. I'll look more into that later when I have time. The remaining states issue protection orders during business hours. Thanks for bringing that up, John Dias. I was wrong to assume that all states operate the same way that the states I am familiar with do regarding protection order laws.Christine WEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16655038857649533310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-5838791590810975052010-12-19T01:47:25.131-06:002010-12-19T01:47:25.131-06:00@John Dias,
As far as a police officer being able...@John Dias,<br /><br />As far as a police officer being able to get an order, that is not how it works in my state or in any state that I know of. Perhaps your state does it differently. But in most states, the victim goes to the courthouse to get an emergency protection order, often called an ex parte, and if it is granted, a court hearing is set within 14 days, in which he or she has to present evidence that a more permanent order is needed. In the event that an officer has a dv emergency overnight, then the officer will generally take that person to a safe location, perhaps a shelter, and the emergency order is applied for the next business day. Then the order is provided to the sheriff's department who serves it at the first available opportunity. A judge or a magistrate may be called in the event that an arrest warrant is needed in an urgent situation, but not an emergency protection order. I actually do know the laws pretty well as I have worked in the field for several years.Christine WEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16655038857649533310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-27968821922456253602010-12-19T01:21:56.437-06:002010-12-19T01:21:56.437-06:00That may be how one judge in the state of New Jers...That may be how one judge in the state of New Jersey trained fellow judges in his state 15 years ago, but that is not how judges are trained today or for the last several years that I have attended criminal justice trainings. And I'm quite sure that the state of Massachusetts has gotten better at discerning whether an order is appropriate or not in the last 15 years. <br /><br />And to state that judges are trained by feminists is one of the dumbest things I've heard in a while. There are multiple domestic violence murders, attempted murders and other serious assaults occurring every day in the U.S.. Those dealing with them, studying them, looking for solutions, training etc. are from all kinds of backgrounds and belief systems and they aren't spending their time pushing a political agenda. Not at all. They are criminal justice professionals, medical experts, threat assessment experts, and so on. People who work in the field are busy removing bodies from homes, notifying next of kin, transporting the injured to hospitals, finding orphaned children homes, working to hold the perpetrators of the crimes accountable, comforting grieving families through criminal trials, studying and comparing cases across the country to try to prevent the next murder, learning to discern real dv cases vs. false accusations, learning to assess which cases are high risk and on and on and on. Domestic violence is deadly business. It's a real crime with real dead people, real injured, real victims, real orphaned or displaced children that have to be dealt with by somebody - thousands! - and there is no place for politics in the morgue, in the ICU, in the assisted living facility, etc.. I don't do this job because of politics or ideology. Neither do most people. It has to be done by someone. Not by MRA's of course. I've never seen an MRA express any sort of empathy for these victims and their families and I don't expect to. It's all "they had it coming", "expect more murders", "it's all about the men", and "me, me, me, me". On the-spearhead I saw one MRA comment suggesting that they attempt to get cops to stop responding to DV calls altogether. I'm guessing we'd have bodies rotting in homes and streets all over the country in no time if certain MRA's were in charge. There is a much bigger picture here to be considered than the small area of it that MRA's focus on and the issues will only be solved within the whole context of the dv problem, and the dv problem is huge and very complex. <br /><br />I get your point as to what your issue is and it's legitimate. However, it doesn't negate the other people who are victimized in the situation. It's about you, but it ain't ALL about you. Open your eyes to the big picture.Christine WEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16655038857649533310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-41715446342488608282010-12-18T21:57:22.350-06:002010-12-18T21:57:22.350-06:00@David Futrelle:
"These are terrible, terribl...@David Futrelle:<br /><i>"These are terrible, terrible things. That doesn't mean that the justice system is completely broken and/or bad."</i><br /><br />Translation: the justice system contains an injustice, namely the abuse of restraining orders, but until things get "completely" broken there's nothing that feminists are going to do about stopping the injustice.<br /><br />In 1995, the Massachusetts Department of Corrections issued a report about the restraining orders that were granted in that state. That report revealed that <b>more than half of the restraining orders didn't contain even an allegation of violence.</b> Therefore, they were issued merely because the requesting party sought one. There was no need to submit any evidence of violent behavior. Evidence simply <i>isn't necessary.</i><br /><br />Source:<br />"The tragedies of domestic violence: A qualitative analysis of civil restraining orders"<br />Office of the Commissioner of Probation<br />Massachusetts Trial Court<br />Sandra Adams; Anne Powell<br />October 12, 1995<br /><a href="http://www.ncjrs.gov/App/abstractdb/AbstractDBDetails.aspx?id=157881" rel="nofollow">http://www.ncjrs.gov/App/abstractdb/AbstractDBDetails.aspx?id=157881</a><br /><br />You might think that this discussion has veered off topic with this talk about the injustice of restraining orders, but it hasn't. The issue is male vulnerability. Male emotions are suppressed, female emotions are elevated. The very suggestion that a woman is feeling "fear" is all the evidence it takes for the wheels of injustice to start turning, and police-enforced coercion is the result. Could men ever get such a result on their behalf in this country? Not on your life.<br /><br />In our culture and in our justice system, a woman's <b>fear</b> carries more weight than a man's <b>pain.</b> This phenomenon is rightly called misandry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-53682209105505903812010-12-18T21:54:17.293-06:002010-12-18T21:54:17.293-06:00@Christine WE:
"Your post is an exaggeration ...@Christine WE:<br /><i>"Your post is an exaggeration and misrepresentation, or perhaps a misunderstanding, of how Protection From Abuse laws work and of why they are in place."</i><br />I've lived this, and I know what I am talking about. You are completely wrong, Christine. Talk to a divorce attorney, tell him that you want to divorce your husband, and that you want to figure out a way to get him out of the house, and to get full custody of the kids for yourself. I guarantee that the first question out of his mouth will be something to the effect of, "Has he made you <b>afraid</b>?" Not "has he been violent," but has he merely instilled an unverifiable emotion in you. This is because the only necessary prerequisite for a woman to obtain a restraining order against her live-in partner is for her to say that she's afraid. Fear... that's it. That's all the unsubstantiated evidence it takes. Just fear. Don't believe me? Try it and see.<br /><br />@Christine WE:<br /><br /><i>"First, officers do not grant orders, judges do."</i><br /><br />Above is the evidence that it is YOU who don't understand domestic violence laws. Police officers can issue "emergency protective orders" on the spot, and it doesn't require any paperwork; all that is required is that the police make a phone call to a judge. Emergency protective orders are restraining orders alright, but they typically last only a week before they expire. This gives a woman time to file the necessary paperwork to get a more permanent restraining order.<br /><br /><i>"A person has to fill out a detailed form and present it to a judge - usually a judge who is trained in risk assessment."</i><br /><br />Now you bring up training. Did you know what kind of training judges receive when it comes to issuing restraining orders? The fact is that judges receive ongoing training as a requirement of their legal profession, and this training is conducted by feminists. For example, at a New Jersey training seminar for judges, the participating judges in attendance were told the following by the speaker, Judge Richard Russell:<br /><br /><i>"Throw him out on the street, give him the clothes on his back and tell him, 'See ya around.' ... The woman needs this protection because the statute granted her that protection... They have declared domestic violence to be an evil in our society. So we don't have to worry about the rights. <b>Grant every order.</b> That is the safest thing to do."</i><br /><br />Source:<br />"Judicial Training: 'Your Job Is to Be a Wall'"<br />New Jersey Law Journal<br />April 24, 1995, p. 14<br /><br />Like I said, men are vulnerable because there are almost never any constraining consequences to this kind of abuse of restraining orders. <i>It's all legal.</i> How many times do I have to use that phrase to point out the injustice? <i>It's all legal.</i> Women are vulnerable to abusive men because of the physical advantage that those men have, but at least it's <i>illegal</i> for such an abuser to utilize his size advantages. But women are permitted to abuse men with violence by proxy -- through a bogus restraining order -- and <i>it's all legal.</i> If you really think that it's rare, then why don't you join me and support reforms to change the statutes on restraining orders so as to set forth more stringent criteria?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-85985221244999380682010-12-18T21:00:25.351-06:002010-12-18T21:00:25.351-06:00@bishopsinister,
It's terrible that there was...@bishopsinister,<br /><br />It's terrible that there was a TRO issued in the Letterman case. A mistake was made. Mistakes are made, as David said. Which brings to mind another judge's mistake that occurred recently. Katie Tagle begged Judge Lemkau to protect her 9 month old son, Wyatt Garcia, from her ex, Wyatt's father, Stephen Garcia. She had plenty of evidence of a threat to show the judge but Stephen Garcia lied to the judge, the judge took him at his word despite the evidence, and refused to issue protection and made her turn the boy over to his father, who took the child and immediately killed him in a murder-suicide as payback for her leaving him as he had been planning and threatening to do for some time. The judge was voted out of office for that horrific mistake. Letterman got screwed. Katie Tagle, little Wyatt, and their family got screwed even worse. There are no easy answers.Christine WEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16655038857649533310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-40877654963358923522010-12-18T16:19:08.104-06:002010-12-18T16:19:08.104-06:00Of course there shouldn't have been a TRO in t...Of course there shouldn't have been a TRO in the first place. Sometimes judges do incredibly stupid things and/or make really sloppy mistakes. <br /><br />Hell, sometimes there are much more significant miscarriages of justice -- like innocent people on death row. <br /><br />These are terrible, terrible things. That doesn't mean that the justice system is completely broken and/or bad.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00569290850910434331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-22006149203891482172010-12-18T15:05:50.876-06:002010-12-18T15:05:50.876-06:00@ David
The point is there shouldn't have bee...@ David<br /><br />The point is there shouldn't have been one at all. If you can slide one through on a clearly ridiculous basis how many pathetically weak ones get through and DON'T get removed? <br /><br />Where's the discipline for the judge who allowed this? <br /><br />Also, Mr. Letterman had to have his lawyers work to remove the TRO. What about the poor slob who can't afford a lawyer? <br /><br />Do feminists care about him? Fuck no.<br /> <br />The fact is, despite Christine's fantasy world of wise judges patiently handing down fair TRO's based on a logical reading of the law and a reasoned assessment of risk, usually a woman who asks for a TRO will get one regardless of the TRO'S merit.<br /><br />And as long as it hurts men feminists will call it fair.<br /><br />Random BrotherUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12669598831813035918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-16827642157718067552010-12-18T14:42:31.460-06:002010-12-18T14:42:31.460-06:00Obviously this case isn't typical. The TRO was...Obviously this case isn't typical. The TRO was quickly lifted: <br /><br />http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,1144343,00.htmlAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00569290850910434331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-58310033773586030082010-12-18T14:12:45.483-06:002010-12-18T14:12:45.483-06:00@CHRISTINE WE
You know, I wasn't going to pos...@CHRISTINE WE<br /><br />You know, I wasn't going to post anymore on this blog as arguing with feminists really is like banging your head against a brick wall, but while lurking I noticed John Dias' post and I thought, well there's no way someone could debate his post. And then I saw your post, and again wanted to bang my head into the wall.<br /><br />You state: "Your post is an exaggeration and misrepresentation, or perhaps a misunderstanding, of how Protection From Abuse laws work and of why they are in place. First, officers do not grant orders, judge's do. A person has to fill out a detailed form and present it to a judge - usually a judge who is trained in risk assessment. The person who requested one doesn't always get it, and if they do, they ALWAYS have to prove it's needed with evidence, usually within 14 days."<br /><br />I have two words for you. David Letterman. Remember him? A woman actually got a TRO against him because of alleged attacks via televison. <br /><br />"Colleen Nestler of Santa Fe claimed that Letterman has used code words to express his desire to marry her and train her as a host on his show. Nestler said Letterman has forced her to go bankrupt and caused her "sleep deprivation" and "mental anguish" since 1994, the Associated Press reports. Nestler's temporary order, which she is trying to have made permanent, states that Letterman must stay at least three yards away from her and not "think of me, and release me from his mental harassment and hammering." <br /><br />A state judge granted the temporary order, but attorneys for Letterman are seeking to have the order quashed." <br /><br />Nester GOT HER TEMPORARY RESTRAINING ORDER. So, Christine WE, where were all those risk assesing judges of which you speak? Where were all those experts who wouldn't allow a frivilous TRO to become active, eh?<br /><br />If a woman can claim a rich celeb is sending her secret messages and then actually gets a TRO, what chance does a normal man in a normal situation have?<br /><br />Risk Assessment my ass.<br /><br />Random Brother. <br /><br />http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,1143004,00.htmlUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12669598831813035918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-52726366799982185032010-12-18T13:36:51.706-06:002010-12-18T13:36:51.706-06:00A drama queen who makes up his own "facts&quo...A drama queen who makes up his own "facts" about everything he comments about, from DV to online dating. <br /><br />Also, Yohan, what's the deal with all these remarks to the effect that "MRAs say this,," "MRAs recommend that," etc? Uh, who died and made you king of the MRAs? Different MRAs believe different things, and a lot of your generalizations about MRAs are just about as accurate as your generalizations about feminists, which is to say not at all.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00569290850910434331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-14499409950745796982010-12-18T10:23:45.742-06:002010-12-18T10:23:45.742-06:00@yohan,
Accusations of violence don't occur a...@yohan,<br /><br />Accusations of violence don't occur at all in the majority of overall divorces, so the majority of women are not doing what you claim they are. You are a drama queen.Christine WEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16655038857649533310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-35705172790030958652010-12-18T09:52:11.259-06:002010-12-18T09:52:11.259-06:00Christine WE: And there isn't an advantage to ...<i>Christine WE: And there isn't an advantage to a woman lying to a court for personal gain in the end, judges do not take kindly to this at all. The judge will be, at the very least, annoyed ... </i><br /><br />There is a difference between the law itself and law execution. Real life is quite different from abstract laws. <br /><br />So far as we see it as MRAs, to be a female and a liar is frequently very effective and lucrative.<br /><br />The man will not only be arrested or at least be kicked out of the home, he also will be financially weaker and has problems to pay for a good legal defense with experts and lawyers.<br />He has hardly even an opportunity to take his own belongings with him. Often the car is also taken for use by his wife (ex-wife).<br /><br />It is very difficult to defend yourself as man against a female accuser in your own home, as he can only say, I did not do that...<br /><br />As I said in many previous postings, MRAs understand that laws are against men. <br /><br />Best solution: PREVENTION. Stay single and no female into your private rooms. It's difficult to accuse you for DV if you are alone in your home.<br /><br />For accused men, MRAs recommend to move away as quickly as possible. Far away. Women often claim harassment after the man is kicked out.<br /> <br />In case the woman is claiming something, you can prove you have not been there. - Maybe the best way to defend yourself...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-69317247950701014192010-12-18T09:12:30.618-06:002010-12-18T09:12:30.618-06:00One thing to add to my post above, anyone who beli...One thing to add to my post above, anyone who believes that domestic homicides occur because of laws should research the topic of 'fatality reviews' that are taking place across the U.S. to study the backgrounds of the cases. The results of these reviews are often used to make decisions as to how DV cases will be approached. Also, there are some informative books written on the subject such as 'Why Do They Kill?' And other similar books. In most cases, there has been ominous behavior and severe entitlement on the part of the murderer long before any court ever became involved or an attempt to escape the relationship was made.Christine WEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16655038857649533310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-48249744494284136042010-12-18T08:41:35.768-06:002010-12-18T08:41:35.768-06:00@John Dias,
Your post is an exaggeration and misr...@John Dias,<br /><br />Your post is an exaggeration and misrepresentation, or perhaps a misunderstanding, of how Protection From Abuse laws work and of why they are in place. First, officers do not grant orders, judge's do. A person has to fill out a detailed form and present it to a judge - usually a judge who is trained in risk assessment. The person who requested one doesn't always get it, and if they do, they ALWAYS have to prove it's needed with evidence, usually within 14 days. Any protection order granted or loss of visitation with children beyond that court date is not likely to be frivolous at all. If a man or woman is whining that he/she has permanently lost custody of their children, they have done something they are not admitting. And there isn't an advantage to a woman lying to a court for personal gain in the end, judges do not take kindly to this at all. The judge will be, at the very least, annoyed, and in the end, that person will not have a protection order in family court and assets will be divided as provided by divorce law. Protection From Abuse laws are in place to save lives, not to strip men of their assets. There are multiple domestic related murders and attempted murders every single day and every day more officers and judges must deal with the fallout of having made decisions regarding many of those cases - good and bad. As long as these murders are occurring, there will be legal efforts to prevent them. MRA's should think about this when issuing warnings that more will occur because of these laws or applauding these murderers for their choices. In reality, these murders are not a response to the laws. The laws are a response to the murders.Christine WEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16655038857649533310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-32028406479800166842010-12-18T02:53:02.972-06:002010-12-18T02:53:02.972-06:00@Christine WE:
It's an exaggeration to say &q...@Christine WE:<br /><br /><i>It's an exaggeration to say "shout at your spouse, lose your house"... Bottom line...people don't get arrested, much less convicted, for DV simply for shouting.</i><br /><br />You have ignored the fundamental reason behind the "shout at your spouse, lose your house" reality. The law allows judges to impose a restraining order without any substantiation <b>AT ALL.</b> A restraining order doesn't entail criminal charges; in fact, a person has more rights being formally indicted for domestic violence than he has merely being targeted by a restraining order. <br /><br />It's actually worse than "shout at your house, lose your house." You can be perfectly peaceful, and your wife can get you kicked out of your home merely by telling the police that she is in fear for her life, on the pretext that you "might" do something violent.<br /><br />The point is that it's all perfectly legal for any woman to do this, whether her live-in male partner has behaved abusively or not. A restraining order requires no proof at all. The fact is, shouting at your spouse is the provocation that would motivate someone to demand a restraining order, out of pure vengeance.<br /><br />Again, the point is that it is completely legal for all of this to happen. No woman who exaggerates or lies in an effort to get a restraining order will ever get prosecuted for it, or receive a contempt of court citation. It just doesn't happen. And if a restraining order is granted, not only does a man lose his possessions and his home, but he effectively loses custody of his kids. The issuance of a restraining order is considered valid evidence in family court for proving that the target of the order deserves to lose custody of his kids.<br /><br />It's all <i>legal.</i> Whether it's likely or not all depends on a woman's mood. Don't make her mad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-10417956699178299232010-12-18T01:21:54.041-06:002010-12-18T01:21:54.041-06:00@John Dias,
It's an exaggeration to say "...@John Dias,<br /><br />It's an exaggeration to say "shout at your spouse, lose your house". If a man is continually shouting at his spouse, which most likely is due to an entitlement issue, will probably get left eventually and one of the parties will likely have to buy the other out of the house. Bottom line...people don't get arrested, much less convicted, for DV simply for shouting. And very, very few people actually lose their kids, even those who should not be around kids. People who claim to be victims because they've lost custody of their kids generally have done something to lose them that they aren't telling you about. Yes, there may be a high percentage of people in the MRM who have had these experiences, but there is also a very high level of entitlement among the group when it comes to relationships which leads to conflict. Just because a person claims they were arrested for DV or lost their children for nothing, doesn't make it true.Christine WEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16655038857649533310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-68913639571302320862010-12-18T00:37:06.379-06:002010-12-18T00:37:06.379-06:00@John Dias,
In the large number of divorces every...@John Dias,<br /><br />In the large number of divorces every year, what percentage of these actually involve domestic violence laws?Christine WEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16655038857649533310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-58102036110106342162010-12-18T00:35:08.751-06:002010-12-18T00:35:08.751-06:00@ahunt:
Any list of masculine qualities that I mi...@ahunt:<br /><br />Any list of masculine qualities that I might list would be attacked by you as not uniquely masculine. Your very request for a clear definition masks what I suspect is an ideology that despises clear definitions, denigrating them as narrow-minded. Why don't you first reveal your beliefs, so that I can judge you, and determine if your POV is a trifle dogmatic?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-36319072960064734492010-12-17T21:06:10.129-06:002010-12-17T21:06:10.129-06:00Perhaps not. But the point is that in order to be ...<i>Perhaps not. But the point is that in order to be a leader, you must display masculine traits.</i><br /><br />Do elaborate. A list is fine. Not being snarky, just wondering if your POV is a trifle dated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111611851606292564.post-5308608534287124912010-12-17T19:28:02.186-06:002010-12-17T19:28:02.186-06:00Valerie, you're critiquing male reasoning whil...Valerie, you're critiquing male reasoning while using female criteria, and as a result you totally miss the point. The concern with most men is not primarily about status or attaining social validation (as is often the case with women). On the contrary, men are being mindful of losing their leverage. Showing excessive emotional vulnerability might mean that a man's girlfriend breaks up with him, or he might lose an opportunity to arrange a date with a particular woman, or over time an emotional man might get divorced by his wife and subsequently lose all that he has. An excessively emotional man (where "excessively emotional" is defined by the conventional societal wisdom) can lose a job, he can lose his freedom (due to the loosely-defined criteria of domestic violence laws -- "shout at your spouse and lose your house"), he can lose his kids (if his disgusted wife divorces him and moves for full custody), and he can even alienate his male friends.<br><br>But even in the realm of emotion, many men are more emotionally vulnerable than women precisely because of the lack of support they receive. That's why it's important to understand the immense value to men of close male friends, but also the value he places on the intimacy and trust that he has with his female partner. <i><b>Especially</b></i> with his female partner. Women have no idea of the sheer enormity of their power, because many men have "put all of their emotional eggs in one basket" as Warren Farrel has said. In other words, a lot of men disclose their most sensitive feelings primarily (or solely) to their wives or girlfriends, giving such women enormous leverage. Even privately, she could completely decimate him with a single comment, and then later when he protests about this she can claim that he is being too sensitive. It is she who is being insensitive, and it is he who is vulnerable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com